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Editorial Reviews

"...read it please!"

--Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., Bestselling author, How to Survive the Loss of a Love and Love Secrets for a Lasting Relationship



"Politely but emphatically decapitates many of the common toxic ideas of our time and beautifully promotes that still rare human quality, solid independent thinking. 'Don't be gullible! Think for yourself!' proclaims this book clearly and succinctly."

--Albert Ellis, Ph.D., President, Institute for Rational-Emotive Therapy, New York City, Author of A New Guide to Rational Living

Customer Reviews

Arnold A. Lazarus, Ph.D., Clifford N. Lazarus, Ph.D. and Allen Fay M.D.
	Dr. Arnold Lazarus is a Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Rutgers University, and has also served on the faculties of Stanford University, Temple University Medical School, and Yale University. He has received numerous honors and awards, most notably the Distinguished Service Award from the American Board of Professional Psychology, special awards from the divisions of psychotherapy and clinical psychology of the American Psychological Association, and he is the first recipient of the prestigious Annual Cummings PSYCHE Award. In 1999 he received two Lifetime Achievement Awards, one from the California Psychological Association and the other from the Association for Advancement of Behavior Therapy. He has maintained a clinical practice since 1959 and has authored or co-authored 17 books and over 250 articles and chapters.
	Dr. Clifford Lazarus is a licensed clinical and health psychologist with a practice in psychotherapy and neuropsychological testing. He is the Director of Comprehensive Psychological Services in Princeton, New Jersey. Dr. Lazarus consults widely to corporations and industry on matters of health psychology, stress management, effective communication, and conflict resolution. He was honored by the Prescribing Psychologists' Register "For Outstanding Contributions to the Pioneering Efforts of Training in Psychopharmacology for Psychologists."
No Image Available	Dr. Allen Fay is a psychiatrist in private practice in New York City and a member of the faculty of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine, City University of New York. Dr. Fay is a Diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. He has authored several books, including PQR: Prescription for a Quality Relationships and I Can If I Want To.

Introduction

1 - Recreation is a Waste of Time

2 - You're Better Off When You Control Other People

3 - It's Healthy to "Blow Off Steam"

4 - Family and Friends Should Love You No Matter How You Act

5 - Kindness Will Overcome Unkindness

6 - Don't Say Things That Might Hurt Others' Feelings

7 - Perfection Should Be Your Goal

8 - Say "No" -- If You Give 'em an Inch, They'll Take a Mile

9 - Ultimatums Settle Disputes

10 - Total Honesty is the Best Policy

11 - Inconsiderate Relatives and Friends Deserve the Silent Treatment

12 - You Can Achieve Almost Anything

13 - If You Want Something Done Right, Do It Yourself

14 - When Things Go Wrong, Find Someone to Blame

15 - Punishment is Good Discipline

16 - Keep Your Feelings to Yourself

17 - First Impressions Tell You What People Are Really Like

18 - Your Parents' Approval is Most Important

19 - Success and Money Lead to Happiness

20 - Once a Victim, Always a Victim

21 - Be Modest; Don't Flatter Yourself

22 - Criticism is a Good Way to Correct People's Mistakes

23 - Don't Be Selfish; Put Others First

24 - Your Spouse Should Love Your Parents and Family

25 - We All Do Our Best When We Have High Expectations

26 - It is Important to Be Liked By Everyone

27 - Problems Go Away If You Ignore Them

28 - If You Play, Play to Win

29 - Have Definite Rules for Yourself and Others

30 - Anyone Who Truly Loves You Should Know What You Need

31 - Insults Are Bound to Be Upsetting

32 - Being Hard on Yourself is Good for You

33 - An Apology Wipes the Slate Clean

34 - To Change You Must Understand the Reasons for Your Behavior

35 - Cover Your Mistakes; The Important Thing is to Be Right

36 - You Won't Go Wrong If You Follow Your Gut Feelings

37 - Life Should Be Fair

38 - Happily Married People Don't Have Sexual Feelings for Anyone Else

39 - Your Word is Your Bond; Never Break a Promise

40 - Suffering and Hard Work Build Character

Afterword