Note to the Reader 

Preface: About the Educational Model 

How to Use this Facilitator's Manual 

1. The Ten Sessions 

Session One: The Rebuilding Blocks Lesson Plan for Session One 

Facilitating Session One 

Reply Letter to Advance Registration 

Outline and Overview of the Ten Sessions 

Opening Night Sign Up Sheet 

The Rebuilding Blocks 

Participants Registration Agreement 

Personal Information Sheet 

Class Attendance Form 

Payment of Fees Form 

I Am Female and My Life Is in Shambles 

I Am Male and I Am Totally Alone 

Opening Night Letter from Bunny 

Description of the Educational Seminar 

How to Create the Rebuilding Seminar in Your Community 

Comments or Order of Topics for the Ten Sessions 

Session Two: Adaptation 

Lesson Plan for Session Two 

Facilitating Session Two 

Adaptive Behavior Homework Sheet 

List of Adaptive Behaviors 

Authentic and Adaptive/Survivor Behaviors 

It Is Never My Responsibility to... When I Feel Responsible 

Words of Wisdom to Rescuers 

101 Ways to Praise a Child 

Risks. A Hug Is a Great Gift 

Affirmations 


Session Three: Grief 

Lesson Plan for Session Three Facilitating Session Three 

Life Stress and Physical Illness 

Letting Go 

Then, Now, and Tomorrow 

Good-bye Letters 

Affirmations 

Referral List of Therapist, Attorneys and Clergy 


Session Four: Anger  

Lesson Plan for Session Four 

Facilitating Session Four 

Healthy Ways to Work On Anger 

Using Anger to Become Empowered 

Illustrating Relationships with Body Sculpting 

So What Can I Do About My Anger? 

Relationships Are My Teachers - The Swing 

Affirmations 


Session Five: Self Worth 

Lesson Plan for Session Five 

Facilitating Session Five 

Steps to Improving Your Feelings of Self-Worth 

It's Me Serenity Prayer 

Rules for Being Human 

I'm Okay -- You're Okay 

Hugging 

Affirmations 


Session Six: Transition 

Lesson Plan for Session Six 

Facilitating Session Six 

Fisher's Theory of Growth and Development 

Affirmation of the Unlimited Person 


Session Seven: Openness 

Lesson Plan for Session Seven 

Facilitating Session Seven 

The Mirror Sees Through My Mask 

Building A Wall 

Johari Window 

Please Hear What I Am Not Saying 

I Am Me -- Small Group Activity 

Affirmations 

 

Session Eight: Love 

Lesson Plan for Session Eight 

Facilitating Session Eight 

All About Love 

What Do You Know About Love? 

Love - You Are Your Own Best Friend 

Happiness - It's Only Natural 

Affirmations 


Session Nine: Relatedness 

Lesson Plan for Session Nine 

Facilitating Session Nine 

Relationship Blocks for Recently Separated People Starting to Date 

Today - Growing Relationships 

Listening Is Loving/Effective Listening/ Attending Skills 

Questions for Discussion 

Affirmations 


Session Ten: Sexuality 

Lesson Plan for Session Ten 

Facilitating Session Ten 

Sexuality Questionnaire 

Affirmations 

Example of Final Class Evaluation - Jere Bierhaus Class 

Final Class Evaluation Form 

Class Evaluation Summary Sheet 

Graduation Diploma 

2. How to Facilitate 

How to Facilitate the Rebuilding Seminar 

3. Volunteer Helper Information 

Welcome Volunteer Helpers 

Volunteer Helper Agreement 

Volunteer Helper Duties 

Volunteer Special Assignment Sheet 

Specific Suggestions for Volunteer Helpers 

Fisher Seminar Volunteer Helper Assessment Scale 

How to Set Up and Implement a Volunteer Helper Program 

Volunteer Training Workshop Agenda 

Helpful Information for Volunteer Helpers 

Assessment of Suicide Potential 

4. Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Information 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Description 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Answer Sheet 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Profile 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Seale Scoring Class Summary Sheet 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Helpful Hints for Interpreting Profiles 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Scoring Transparencies 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale Interpretations 

Fisher Divorce Adjustment Seale Research Data 

Scoring Profiler for the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale 

5. Widows and Widowers Information 

Widowed and Widower Rebuilding Blocks 

Widowed and Widower Adjustment Scale 

Widowed and Widower Adjustment Scale and Answer Sheet 

6. Appendices 

Appendix A: Rebuilding for Kids Information 

Appendix B: National Support Groups 

7. Bibliography